What’s so special about understanding? Understanding of self and the understanding of others forms the basic dynamics of how we see the world and how we experience our limited days in it. Not just the logical part of emotions and actions but also the so-called heart part of it. A great, rare and toughest thing to to learn in life is that the heart is not to supposed break. We want to love and go all out to loving, only to discover again and again that it takes a long time to know people, to understand people and to know that understanding is love. Even without intentional manipulation, drama and deception, people will surprise you, will shock you, will hurt you — not out of malice, but out of the incompleteness of their own self-knowledge, which continually leads them to surprise themselves too. They will break heart. They will break promise. It is because they believed themselves to be the kind of person who could keep it and found themselves to be a person who could not. If we live honestly enough and observe ourselves, we will all find ourselves in that position eventually. Our own nature haunts ourselves. Pure relationship is a matter of clear sight — of seeing through other’s self-concealment and removing our own projections. People are so very secretive. they conceal because they are scared of appearing eccentric or different It is, of course, impossible to ever fully know what it is like to be someone else Impossible to fully convey to another what it is like to be you. The dream of perfectly clear vision is indeed just a dream. But we can always see a little more clearly in order to love a little more purely. Honesty, Openness and Willingness to understand others and self is the key to pure relations in spite of all the drama we create around us.